I don't know whether this is entirely fair to Hephaestus, since there are so few myths really about him that we don't get as much psychological insight (for lack of a better term) into him as with some of the other gods. For instance, we don't actually know if he loved Aphrodite because we're not told if he loved her or not. That's not "Hephaestus's" "fault." (But then there are those golden statue-women he made to help around the forge... Sex-bots?)
In any case, it's an interesting angle on Greek mythology and modern issues, and I'm all for that!